When You Can’t Count On Your Husband To Act Age Appropriate

What does a mom do when her husband is putting on inappropriate movies for their 2 year old son?

When speaking to husband about movie being inappropriate for a 2 year old, it’s important to speak to husband in the tone and manner you would use with a 2 year old. This is the only way you will get any results.

Therapists say most adults are their 5 year old selves walking around in big people garb. This is referring to the emotion, reactive part of humans. But I believe this is only 1/2 true. Most women may be 5 year olds, but most men are only 2 year olds.

So while husband is indulging himself in a movie he impulsively wants, he’s not able to be present enough to say ‘I’m here to be a positive role model for my son.’ You would not expect a 2 year old to be able to have such self control and therefore, as much as you may not want to believe it, you can’t expect your adult 2 year old to have much self control beyond that of your child.

To husband you may say, “I don’t like what you’re watching. Is there something else that’s more happy and colorful? Why don’t we look for something together?” If they argue, maintain an even tone of voice and repeat the above quoted sentences. If husband still argues, keep a calm voice and say, “Okay, we are going to have to put the movies away now.”

Now if you can figure out a time out that will work with husband beside withholding sex, please let me know. Always need good options.