Wondering Why Your Husband Is Not Excited About Your New Job…

…Even though he was the one who told you it was time for you to go back to work? Most husbands don’t want their wife to succeed. In theory they want their wife to be successful so that there will be more money coming in. In actuality a wife’s success is an insult to their masculinity. It means they can’t take care of their family, they’re not successful hunters and, the worst one, their wife is more talented, skillful and makes more money than them. That’s a reality that’s too hard to take.

Better to keep her down by sneaky insults and subtle putdowns. Or just show lack of excitement over her successes.

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When You Can’t Count On Your Husband To Act Age Appropriate

What does a mom do when her husband is putting on inappropriate movies for their 2 year old son?

When speaking to husband about movie being inappropriate for a 2 year old, it’s important to speak to husband in the tone and manner you would use with a 2 year old. This is the only way you will get any results.

Therapists say most adults are their 5 year old selves walking around in big people garb. This is referring to the emotion, reactive part of humans. But I believe this is only 1/2 true. Most women may be 5 year olds, but most men are only 2 year olds.

So while husband is indulging himself in a movie he impulsively wants, he’s not able to be present enough to say ‘I’m here to be a positive role model for my son.’ You would not expect a 2 year old to be able to have such self control and therefore, as much as you may not want to believe it, you can’t expect your adult 2 year old to have much self control beyond that of your child.

To husband you may say, “I don’t like what you’re watching. Is there something else that’s more happy and colorful? Why don’t we look for something together?” If they argue, maintain an even tone of voice and repeat the above quoted sentences. If husband still argues, keep a calm voice and say, “Okay, we are going to have to put the movies away now.”

Now if you can figure out a time out that will work with husband beside withholding sex, please let me know. Always need good options.

Is your husband as deaf as mine?

This must be grounds for divorce. He seems to need to blast his phone calls on speaker, blast tv, blast music. What’s worse is that he doesn’t care that he disrupts the house. His babies could be sleeping and he doesn’t care that his ruckus permeats the entire house.

I know there are laws on noise pollution, more and more everyday, but what do if the noise is coming from within? Meditate & pray for —-?