Wondering Why Your Husband Is Not Excited About Your New Job…

…Even though he was the one who told you it was time for you to go back to work? Most husbands don’t want their wife to succeed. In theory they want their wife to be successful so that there will be more money coming in. In actuality a wife’s success is an insult to their masculinity. It means they can’t take care of their family, they’re not successful hunters and, the worst one, their wife is more talented, skillful and makes more money than them. That’s a reality that’s too hard to take.

Better to keep her down by sneaky insults and subtle putdowns. Or just show lack of excitement over her successes.

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The End Of Life As You Know It

One way to appreciate the life you HAD is to get married.

You will not be able to enjoy yourself as you once did. And if you have a know-it-all husband like me, forget it. Your entire past will be invalidated. What you once thought was valuable life experience is now NOTHING.

Let’s talk about appreciation. Therapists and Oprah will tell you that appreciation is very important in making a marriage work.
I say better you should appreciate your single life. Enjoy yourself, take a class, spend your money. And feel appreciated by people around you. 

I know it’s cliche to say spouses take each other for granted and don’t appreciate. I’ll even add to that. You might even get a warped idea that you’re a dull person because your husband is not curious about your thoughts, feelings, desires, preferences or past accomplishments. It’s not you. It’s the fact that you elevated him to husband. (That word really needs to be defined. It needs more of a universal meaning.)

If you’re dying to be taken for granted then get married.