One way to appreciate the life you HAD is to get married.
You will not be able to enjoy yourself as you once did. And if you have a know-it-all husband like me, forget it. Your entire past will be invalidated. What you once thought was valuable life experience is now NOTHING.
Let’s talk about appreciation. Therapists and Oprah will tell you that appreciation is very important in making a marriage work.
I say better you should appreciate your single life. Enjoy yourself, take a class, spend your money. And feel appreciated by people around you.
I know it’s cliche to say spouses take each other for granted and don’t appreciate. I’ll even add to that. You might even get a warped idea that you’re a dull person because your husband is not curious about your thoughts, feelings, desires, preferences or past accomplishments. It’s not you. It’s the fact that you elevated him to husband. (That word really needs to be defined. It needs more of a universal meaning.)
If you’re dying to be taken for granted then get married.